I’m definitely a deep thinker, yet I’ve experienced many good relationships (where being so hasn’t been a struggle). But alas, my latest, my marriage, is a struggle. Opposites attract as they say. My partner (in my view) is very much as I am in terms of deep thinking, inquisitive, empathetic…yet she’s experienced abuse trauma as a kid and adolescence…which masks her true self and manifests in ‘the opposite’. Our relationship is therefore perplexing at times as we both wrestle with what trauma can (and does) do to it.