Such a relatable human experience, the therapist definitely dropped a ball in her choice of words; ‘getting over it’ is the wrong terminology for what we must do in healing. Letting go and not avoiding our emotions is what we “need” to do. For our own sake, our own mental and physical health. How/when we do that is all about us. It actually happens all the time, in little moments, as they happen we reconnect to our true self (before the hurt), the more we do that, the more our confidence, self-worth, trust in self etc grows. The less we bite our tongue, the less we avoid difficult emotions/situations, the less we tolerate poor behaviour/treatment, the less we take others choices/words/actions personally. Healing is simply about becoming grounded in self, in our values again. Knowing who we are, our identity, our wants and needs, and being accountable for them, standing up for them, nurturing love inside us, self-respect, vulnerability, honesty and openness, because that is self care, allowing self to ‘be’. It’s the things we need to forgive ourselves for doing or not doing at the moment(s) of our hurt/trauma. Trauma isn’t our fault, but it is our responsibility to heal it, because when we don’t it hurts us internally and passes onto others hurting them. Does it ever go? Not really, it is always a part of us, however it’s up to us, and only us, to choose what to do about it, what impact it has on us and our lives going forward. Do we want to be victims, survivors or thrivers? We have and will be again all three, however the first two are governed by trauma, the latter by self. I’d rather by myself than one of the many faces of trauma and so I choose to face it head on, as much as I’m capable of doing, until that capability grows. Life is short, my only advice to human beings is do something rather than nothing. Don’t let trauma and those who passed it onto you win.